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Discuss [Mar. 19th, 2004|09:27 am]
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[zadriana]
Some people cannot have Casual Sex.
Some people cannot have Serious relationships.

Some people can do both.

What kind of person are you?

Which is best in life?
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[User Picture]From: saskuoch
2004-03-19 10:33 am (UTC)
no serious relationships, only casual sex.

which is best? the ability to have both.

if you have to choose one? probably serious relationships provided you actually have them and they involve sex.
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[User Picture]From: vintagehandbag
2004-03-21 12:00 pm (UTC)
I'm beginning to think I just shouldn't interact with other people. Everything gets so messy. Maybe I'll move to Austin, be cool and detached, wear Chuck Taylors all the time dye my hair every month. I'm sick of irony.
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[User Picture]From: zadriana
2004-03-22 08:37 am (UTC)
I envy you. I wish I could be cool and detached. It's very hard for me to imagine a life without human interaction, but then again, I am an incredibly social human being.
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[User Picture]From: vintagehandbag
2004-03-22 09:17 am (UTC)
Dude, I started crying during various movies on "TNT" yesterday. That is clearly not something that's possible for me. Though, the first part, of the statement remains true. Things do get so messy.
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[User Picture]From: zadriana
2004-03-22 10:37 am (UTC)
I can agree with that. But things getting messy is a part of life. A relationship that can't get messy and survive is not a relationship at all. Life isn't perfect and relationships never ever are.
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From: beitlamed
2004-03-22 05:09 am (UTC)
i'm pretty bad with casual sex. i can have serious relationships, though the intervals tend to be fairly long (which bugs me a lot).

i think it's always best if you have as many possibilites as possible -- even if you doN't actually plan on making them real. So, it's best to be able to have casual sex and a relationship -- but it's also good to be able to live on your own and without sex.

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[User Picture]From: zadriana
2004-03-22 08:40 am (UTC)
True. Celibacy is very difficult thing for some people and a slight adjustment for others.

Celibacy wasn't difficult for me, but I did miss a lot of the intimacy that comes with sex in serious relationships, which sometimes is easy to confuse with just having sex.

I think a lot of people have sex and think they are getting that intimacy, which isn't so much true.
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From: predicate
2004-03-22 09:56 am (UTC)
I'm all about the intimacy. Whenever people toss around do the 'what's you're emotional gender' questions, I peg the 'female' side of the fence hardcore. Sex isn't exactly a non-issue for me, but the emotional connection and intimacy that's a part of a relationship are a gabillion times more important to me. S'all about the connection.
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[User Picture]From: zadriana
2004-03-22 10:36 am (UTC)
True be that. It's interesting. If someone asks me how many people I have had sex with, I always never know what to answer.

I have had real intimate-connecting-wonderful sex with less than a handful. But I have gone through the motions with more than a handful. Sex is an issue for me, and I went through a period where I confused (pardon my french) fucking with intimacy. So yeah, i agree. It's all about the connection, and sometimes it's easy to lose that.
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[User Picture]From: painedrose
2004-09-28 07:14 pm (UTC)
Only the seriousness kind. Dont get me wrong, I love sex but... i just have to have the closeness of the other person emotionally. I could do casual... but not for long and it would just probly be meaningless in everyway to me. Call me a hopeless romantic.... heh, it wouldnt be the first time. I think im one of the "good guys" left in this world... if only the world wasnt changing around me. Too bad there arent many of us left...
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